I just had sex and loved it, but now I think I am pregnant and I am
only 14 and DO NOT believe in abortion. What should I do?
Any sexually active female should be seeing a gynecologist. First
intercourse is an indication to begin annual Pap smears and pelvic
exams. So, the first thing to do is make arrangements for an
appointment with a gynecologist. Given the circumstances, she will
likely test you for pregnancy (if enough time has passed for such
tests to be accurate or she will arrange for one later) and she will
test you for any sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) including
You also will want to talk to her or another adult that you trust about
your partner. At 14, you are below the age required to give consent
for sexual intercourse, in most states. If your partner is an adult,
especially if there is a large age difference between the two of you,
sexual activity with you is not appropriate thing for him to be doing.
Many teens feel that the older their boyfriend is, the more adult they
are. Or they are turned off by the awkardness and immaturity of
boys their own age. Still, sexuality should be shared between
equals, and though it may be hard to accept young teens cannot
be equal in a sexual relationship with an adult. Doing so often
causes emotional harm that young teens may not realize at the
time. A large percentage of teenage pregnancies are a result of
relationships with adult men.
Your doctor will also discuss your future plans for intercourse.
Having unprotected sex can lead to a whole lot more than just an
unwanted pregnancy. Sex can be a lot of fun but unsafe sex can
leave a woman with STDs that may permanently affect her health,
her future sexual activity, and her ability to ever get pregnant. Use
birth control! And use a condom if there is any risk of contracting
an STD or HIV! You can go to your local women's health clinic
(Planned Parenthood has chapters all over the country) and ask to
be tested, get free condoms, get birth control, and explore your
options if you are pregnant.
Sex will only continue to be fun if you learn to take care of yourself
first. Sex can also include just about a thousand things beside
intercourse, from oral sex to masturbation, and if you and your
partner aren't ready to have sex in a way that keeps YOU healthy
maybe it's time to slow down a bit. If you choose to go back to
abstinence, strange as it may sound, this too requires some
planning. You want to think about what kinds of situations might
lead to intercourse and avoid them or think about what you will do